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Right Signs,Wrong Motives

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As I sat and spoke to the Holy Spirit on what to write about, I felt the need to write on this topic. This write up may be more biased towards ladies(forgive me).
You are single yet you crave attention so when the gentleman/men approache(es), though you are honestly not interested, you keep giving him false signs of interest so he continues to give you attention. You behave like the illegal girlfriend and throw a tantrum if he doesn’t call you or send a text in the morning. You manage to allow a few sweet words to escape your lips and give him hope that doesn’t exist. 

Truth is, all you need is the attention. You are tired of being alone, sitting alone, walking alone- it feels like that’s all you would ever be!

Ewurefua is right where you are. In a fix because she went attention seeking. She likes to blame the other guys for taking it a notch too seriously but she knows she is to blame. All the late night calls, fake soft voice, feigned tears over the phone and uncountable tantrums just so Jesse, her latest bait, would give her the attention she craved. And O! did Jesse give attention and even out do himself in the area. Jesse wasn’t a gentleman who would normally kotow to ladies but for Ewurefua he bent his back out.

 Needless to say, his heart was shattered when at a Friday dinner with his friends he introduced her as his girlfriend and she re-introduced herself as friend.

Ewura literaly fled from the dinner and plopped herself on the bed.

‘Aaarrggghh, what have I done again?!’ She asked herself and gritted her teeth in frustration.
You are a wonderful lady out there who constantly feels the need to be treated special but in all honesty, you know you are in for just the attention and nothing else. You haven’t said yes, there is certainty that you will never say yes when proposed to, yet you go on and pull them close with all the right signs that would cause them to want to stay. A situation like this means you are not fully emotionally independent because you are relying on someone else to give you attention just so you can ward off the evil monsters of loneliness. We all feel lonely at times,even individuals in blissful relationships can attest to that, however you don’t use that as a leeway to give all the right signs and say no eventually. 

Stay Single till you are fully and truly ready.

xoxo

God bless you

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7 thoughts on “Right Signs,Wrong Motives

  1. Oh this Jesse. Sorry for the guy. But Ewurafua didn’t try kraa… Nanka do it after the dinner oo erh. Prior to the dinner Jesse would probably have spiced and garnished the girlfriend hype and served it hot to his friends only to hear that.
    Hope the sisters are reading tho. especially those ones who practice this.

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  2. Very indepth and on point. No wonder I keep saying a lot of girls are so complicated. They want to have their cake and eat it too but doesn’t work like that. If you’re patient enough you’ll actually reap the joys of being single instead of finally grabbing but leaving behind a trail of broken hearts and false hopes lol!

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  3. Very indepth and on point. No wonder I keep saying girls are so complicated. They want to have their cake and eat it too but doesn’t work like that. If you’re patient enough you’ll actually reap the joys of being single instead of finally grabbing but leaving behind a trail of broken hearts and false hopes lol!

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